Take a break!

Affirmation #5

This is what we are doing today and possibly tomorrow. When planning school for our week last night, I realized that our schedule needs to be revamped now that I am back home full-time. I need to allow time for our kids to not only continue working independently but to also create moments where they can work together, including taking turns playing with their four-year-old brother. This will maximize our learning time & my teaching time with them.


Do you take a break when you need a break? It could be a break from homeschooling or from parenting or even a lunch break!


There was a time in my parenting & in our early homeschool journey where I thought if I took a break the world would end. In my mind, I had to cook every meal (from scratch), run our household on a strict schedule like a daycare/school, and be present at every moment my kids & husband needed me. It was draining. I had many breakdowns. I stopped taking care of myself because I consumed myself in this perfect picture of how I wanted my family to look. I touch on this part of my life in my Amazon best-seller, "Confessions of a Depressed Homeschool Mom, 2nd edition".


Don't do what I did. Take breaks. Know that it's ok. There's always tomorrow & your family will love you even more for making time to make yourself better!

When life throws you lemons…

November is usually the month where we reflect...

What are we thankful for?
How can we spend more time with our family?
Is this curriculum REALLY working for us?
What the heck happened to this year? Is there really only one more month left!?!?!

Sometimes we reflect TOO much and get caught up in what we failed to do or how much we did not accomplish. At least I know I do!! All the time!!

Why do we beat ourselves up like this? I believe it is our human nature to do so. We know we are not perfect, yet we strive so hard to be. In our limited minds, our lives must be the epitome of a social media photo: perfect in every way, from the lighting, to the filters used, to the poses, to the angle of the shot taken, to the placement of every item in the background. To some of us, the look is everything. It makes us feel like we've accomplished something. Similar to a child's mindset when you tell them to clean their room and they stash all the junk under their bed or inside their closet. Oh, their room looks clean to the untrained eye, but parents know where to find those hiding spots & showcase how terrible an idea it was for your child to think they'd get away with stashing their junk successfully.

This is how God sees us through His all-seeing eyes. He is the parent that is showing & teaching us how to clean our rooms, but then when the time comes for us to do it on our own, we take short cuts that lead to the need for a little tough love. We think we can be perfect and lead perfect lives when in actuality God is the only being who was created to be so. Yes, we are created in Him image, but that does not mean we are Him.

When those imperfect moments come: the tantrums, the non-private bathroom breaks, having to explain a lesson to the same child for the fifth time in one hour, trying to convince your child to read the grade level book you chose & not the comic book they chose...think of seeing these situations through a mindfulness perspective. A mindfulness perspective allows you to point out the little things and focus on them & their positivity when you normally would look at more of the negative parts of the situation at hand. So, when your toddler is screaming and kicking in a full-blown tantrum, think of how amazing it is that they are learning how to communicate & that they are safe with you, teaching them the proper ways to express themselves. During the moments when your child is not cooperating with completing their school assignments, think about how far they have come in their studies from a month ago or a year ago, and how much progress has been made. This mindfulness mindset allows us to dig deep and focus our energy on more positive thoughts and actions rather than the negative.

Life is throwing a whole HEAP of lemons at us adults! Add parenting & home education to the mix and we have lemons to last us a lifetime.

My question to you is, what are you thankful for?

You helped make history…HERstory!

Yes, YOU did that!! Last weekend was indeed a long one, and it was not a holiday weekend either. My fellow co-authors worked tirelessly with your support to earn the status of THREE-TIME BEST SELLING AUTHORSon Amazon for our book, African American Homeschooling Mompreneurs! We won that title in the following categories:
  1.  "Homeschool",
  2. "Two Hour Education & Reference Short Reads", and
  3. "Women & Business"

The "Women & Business" title was the final one our team needed to secure & your support helped us beat out a very popular author! As we continued to campaign for best seller in that category, we soon found out that this fellow author got her team together to begin promoting other products and services she had to offer if her fans purchased a copy of her book. WE PREVAILED!!!

This win is not just a numbers game for us. It is not all about how many books we sold or how much money we want to make. If any of these ideas were true, I don't think my co-authors would have signed on to this project. So why did we write the book? What message do we want the reader & the world to know?

As African Amerian home educating entrepreneurs, we are a triple threat of UNICORNS in a field of HORSES. Now, what the heck does THAT mean?? The face of home education is typically a white family. The face of an entrepreneur is typically white and/or male. We want the readers of this anthology to know that it is possible for African American women to be successful as home educators and as entrepreneurs. We are here and what we are doing can be done and IS being done every day!


But we are not done...

Our book did win best seller, but that does not mean the end for us! How can you continue to help us spread the word about our journey?

  • Click the photos above to purchase a digital copy or a printed copy of our book. Order an extra copy or two to share with someone!
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  • Encourage a home educator, a mom, and an entrepreneur. Sometimes we feel alone in our bubble worlds. Knowing that others see what we are doing and how hard we are working means everything!